Trust your instincts when it comes to your kids
Trust your instincts when it comes to parenting your children – it’s called ‘momstincts’. A while back, I wrote a blog post about their being no perfect parents and in my book, Parenting with Courage, I explored what it looks like to be the mother or father that God has destined you to be. Now, again, I have come to realised that as a parent, you really do know that your children need.
Case in point.
My 15 year-old daughter came home from a two-week sports tour a little under weather. She wasn’t feeling 100% when she arrived home, but I initially put it down to tour exhaustion (you know, too many late nights and lots of sport and laughter). But after a few days, her cough got worse and she really wasn’t feeling well. School started again and although I strongly encouraged her to stay home, she declined saying she would miss too much work. I can understand the pressure these kids are under. School projects, sport and a full on curriculum to get through all add up to pressure to get it all done. So, against my better judgement, I let her go to school.
After returning home from her day, I listened to her cough and she complained about ear-ache, I decided to pull rank. I pulled the Mom card. The one where you do as I say, no questions asked. I promptly booked her off school, made a doctor’s appointment and ordered her to bed. This time, she complied. We hot-footed it off to the GP and there she diagnosed my precious daughter with bronchitis and an ear-infection. You see, mom really does know best – my instincts were right all along.
When I first became a mom, I wasn’t so sure that I would know what to do and when to do it with regards to raising my children. I hadn’t finely tuned my ‘momstincts’ in and doubted myself at every turn. But, looking back over 32 collective years (15 plus 17 years) of parenting, I have realised more often that not that my ‘momstincts’ were right. Like the time when I knew my daughter needed to change schools or when my son was bullied and we couldn’t quite put our finger on what was going on. What about when I knew my son was so sick that he had to stay off school for 2 weeks or when the effects of the armed robbery were subtly (or not so subtly) affecting my kids. You see, it’s ‘momstincts’ or if you’re a dad you can call it, ‘dadstincts’. Just don’t let your kids on the term because they will say that it ‘stinks’. Okay, so it’s a bad pun.
So, all these ramblings are here to say to you moms and dads…trust your instincts. Trust your gut. Trust that inner feeling that something isn’t quite right or that you need to make a change. Listen to it and listen to the leading of the Lord. After all, He loves your children so much more than you do.
Proverbs 3:3-6 (NIV)
“Let love and faithfulness never leave you;
bind them around your neck,
write them on the tablet of your heart.
Then you will win favor and a good name
in the sight of God and man.